(A) understand why
To help children overcome the psychological fear, we should first understand the real source of his fear. Parents in the face of the child because of the fear generated emotional reactions need to Bing in addition to the immediate negative attitude, try a simple talk, to understand exactly what he feared. Such as fear of the dark, should accompany him in the dark, gradually embolden increase courage in the face of darkness; fear the shadow caused by the illusion, you should let him see the true face of the shadow.
(B) by the story to sort out the truth
If adults find that children have a tendency to fear of "ghosts" and did not know what he was afraid of, you can try to use to tell stories, spoke to the children listen and let him talk about his feelings, in order to clarify his fear What is. Let the kids get some spiritual comfort from the story, and good things to enrich their mind.
(3) to maintain the bright light
Found that children fear the "dark", as he points a night light, or keep a bright light in every corner of the child's activities. Literally force their children to confront the fear that he will not be processed, and can not solve the problem, but will make him feel even more scared.
(D) more than to cuddle or caress
Parents sweet and warm cuddle, caress, can not only increase the parent-child friendship, this feeling of love, to make him feel that no matter in what circumstances, are warm and safe, be afraid of the unknown there? parents pay more patience to spend with their children at any time to observe his emotions and movements, the most definite action, more children, support children.
(E) use of language interaction, communication
Few children ghosts because of the fear of death or inadvertently heard after someone passes away, you will become a ghost, the ghost would take away a person's life. Like this situation will lead to his fear of ghosts, when adults have to cost a lot of effort, with the children understand the language and communicate with him, to explain death to him, and help him to make him feel at ease to find.
(F) give emotional assurance
If the child says, "ghost", a dark shadow or can not find the source of the sound, the parents can accompany with him to find those frightening matter harmonies, exactly where? If the child is very young still small , can not tell what he was afraid of ghosts, parents may wish to give him emotional assurance, let him know that someone accompany him, he will not be lost in the dark.
(7) Choose the TV program
The sake of the children, the parents should carefully choose television programs, try to avoid letting children watch those bizarre program or some homicide abandoned corpses News, deepen the sense of fear of ghosts. In addition, before you go to sleep, do not let the children and adults watching with horror album, affect the quality of sleep, resulting in frequent nightmares at night.
So adults do not afraid of a child, said he was a "coward" or "brave", will cause the child really useless more retreat, or think that the days are a fearless, is a good thing, Good boy.
Showing posts with label how do you overcome fear. Show all posts
Showing posts with label how do you overcome fear. Show all posts
Tuesday, October 9, 2012
How to help the baby to overcome fear
Afraid everyone will experience. Some people afraid of dogs, some people are afraid high, and some people are even afraid of what is not clear. Many parents have been troubled child afraid of feeling from the ghost of darkness it? Parents should think carefully about this problem.Tao Sheng Hua City nursery teaching team leader, Chen Guiying teacher said, some of the reasons and circumstances, unknowingly cause fear of young children, parents must pay attention and avoid:
1 alone
The child's world, it is often accompanied by other factors as dark shadows and solitude, especially when a person, the more insecure, prone to fear. When he said "something fishy", may be afraid of the dark and can not see the object may be ambiguous shadows, it may be he was unwilling to be alone, afraid of being alone ...
2 adults intimidation
When the child is disobedient or naughty, some parents will use ghost to scare him, "If you do not obey and bow, sit dinner the terror tiger in will be will find you!" Or the child in a dark place, such a small room, toilets, etc., in order to be punished, warning children, this method is easy for children to produce the emotions of ghosts and afraid of the dark.
3, the TV media impact
Some TV show or supernatural show will be a ghost and black to do in connection with the re-fit some treacherous sound, action and props, make-up, after the mass propagation tool of rendering, "ghost very terror, it will appear in a dark place ... child heart ..., "so the" ghost "and" dark "there was the image of even deepen its fear.
Over rendering and exaggerated
Young children if the parents, relatives, accompanied safe to him, the intimate comfort young children are not afraid of the dark. However, if the parents themselves are afraid of the dark, often make a fuss or scream, the child will have negative imitation, and deepened his dark sense of fear. Also, due to be overly rendering of "ghosts" but also adults and exaggerated movements and facial expressions, so that children will never forget, affect the future life.
1 alone
The child's world, it is often accompanied by other factors as dark shadows and solitude, especially when a person, the more insecure, prone to fear. When he said "something fishy", may be afraid of the dark and can not see the object may be ambiguous shadows, it may be he was unwilling to be alone, afraid of being alone ...
2 adults intimidation
When the child is disobedient or naughty, some parents will use ghost to scare him, "If you do not obey and bow, sit dinner the terror tiger in will be will find you!" Or the child in a dark place, such a small room, toilets, etc., in order to be punished, warning children, this method is easy for children to produce the emotions of ghosts and afraid of the dark.
3, the TV media impact
Some TV show or supernatural show will be a ghost and black to do in connection with the re-fit some treacherous sound, action and props, make-up, after the mass propagation tool of rendering, "ghost very terror, it will appear in a dark place ... child heart ..., "so the" ghost "and" dark "there was the image of even deepen its fear.
Over rendering and exaggerated
Young children if the parents, relatives, accompanied safe to him, the intimate comfort young children are not afraid of the dark. However, if the parents themselves are afraid of the dark, often make a fuss or scream, the child will have negative imitation, and deepened his dark sense of fear. Also, due to be overly rendering of "ghosts" but also adults and exaggerated movements and facial expressions, so that children will never forget, affect the future life.
Monday, September 17, 2012
How overcome fear?
How to overcome fear? Many patients with anxiety disorders and their families want to know. To overcome the phobia, we must first pay attention to adjust their mentality, and establish some good ideas.
(A) accept themselves and build self-confidence
A lot of fear in patients is because they do not accept themselves and their own lack of self-confidence caused. So, you want to change the First would have in their hearts to accept and accept themselves and establish self-confidence.
(2) Do not expect too much of their own
Perfectionist, expect too much on their own, it is easy to worry about the outcome, too concerned with others of their own views, bent to get the recognition of others, and thereby lose yourself. Accept their current situation, do not worry about how others see you more afraid to make mistakes, the more you will feel helpless.
(C) Do not be too concerned about their own bodies reaction
Tension is always accompanied by a series of physiological discomfort, reinforcement theory, if we are too tight to pay attention to certain parts of the nervous reaction of their bodies, equivalent strengthen their nervous behavior, making it step by step worse. When we'll leave the tension response due to nervousness not pay attention to and strengthen the nervous reaction over time will gradually subside.
(D) the courage to face
Tension phenomenon, in social situations, often showing escape the psychological fear that they will fool of myself and not to face. In fact, escape and can not eliminate tension, on the contrary, it will make you feel the cowardly, so you blame yourself, so that the next time will be more nervous. And we can not escape life, we live in this community, people, sooner or later, we must face.
The best way to overcome fear is to bravely face nervous! Like a psychology expert noted: "We are afraid of is not really the thing itself, but our own!" The key is to see if you can beat myself and the courage to take the first step! bravely to face serious phobia patients and doctors with a common treatment.
(A) accept themselves and build self-confidence
A lot of fear in patients is because they do not accept themselves and their own lack of self-confidence caused. So, you want to change the First would have in their hearts to accept and accept themselves and establish self-confidence.
(2) Do not expect too much of their own
Perfectionist, expect too much on their own, it is easy to worry about the outcome, too concerned with others of their own views, bent to get the recognition of others, and thereby lose yourself. Accept their current situation, do not worry about how others see you more afraid to make mistakes, the more you will feel helpless.
(C) Do not be too concerned about their own bodies reaction
Tension is always accompanied by a series of physiological discomfort, reinforcement theory, if we are too tight to pay attention to certain parts of the nervous reaction of their bodies, equivalent strengthen their nervous behavior, making it step by step worse. When we'll leave the tension response due to nervousness not pay attention to and strengthen the nervous reaction over time will gradually subside.
(D) the courage to face
Tension phenomenon, in social situations, often showing escape the psychological fear that they will fool of myself and not to face. In fact, escape and can not eliminate tension, on the contrary, it will make you feel the cowardly, so you blame yourself, so that the next time will be more nervous. And we can not escape life, we live in this community, people, sooner or later, we must face.
The best way to overcome fear is to bravely face nervous! Like a psychology expert noted: "We are afraid of is not really the thing itself, but our own!" The key is to see if you can beat myself and the courage to take the first step! bravely to face serious phobia patients and doctors with a common treatment.
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