Tuesday, October 9, 2012

How to help children overcome fears, make him brave, to face things positive?

(A) understand why

        To help children overcome the psychological fear, we should first understand the real source of his fear. Parents in the face of the child because of the fear generated emotional reactions need to Bing in addition to the immediate negative attitude, try a simple talk, to understand exactly what he feared. Such as fear of the dark, should accompany him in the dark, gradually embolden increase courage in the face of darkness; fear the shadow caused by the illusion, you should let him see the true face of the shadow.

(B) by the story to sort out the truth

        If adults find that children have a tendency to fear of "ghosts" and did not know what he was afraid of, you can try to use to tell stories, spoke to the children listen and let him talk about his feelings, in order to clarify his fear What is. Let the kids get some spiritual comfort from the story, and good things to enrich their mind.

 (3) to maintain the bright light

        Found that children fear the "dark", as he points a night light, or keep a bright light in every corner of the child's activities. Literally force their children to confront the fear that he will not be processed, and can not solve the problem, but will make him feel even more scared.

(D) more than to cuddle or caress

        Parents sweet and warm cuddle, caress, can not only increase the parent-child friendship, this feeling of love, to make him feel that no matter in what circumstances, are warm and safe, be afraid of the unknown there? parents pay more patience to spend with their children at any time to observe his emotions and movements, the most definite action, more children, support children.

(E) use of language interaction, communication

        Few children ghosts because of the fear of death or inadvertently heard after someone passes away, you will become a ghost, the ghost would take away a person's life. Like this situation will lead to his fear of ghosts, when adults have to cost a lot of effort, with the children understand the language and communicate with him, to explain death to him, and help him to make him feel at ease to find.

(F) give emotional assurance

        If the child says, "ghost", a dark shadow or can not find the source of the sound, the parents can accompany with him to find those frightening matter harmonies, exactly where? If the child is very young still small , can not tell what he was afraid of ghosts, parents may wish to give him emotional assurance, let him know that someone accompany him, he will not be lost in the dark.

 (7) Choose the TV program

        The sake of the children, the parents should carefully choose television programs, try to avoid letting children watch those bizarre program or some homicide abandoned corpses News, deepen the sense of fear of ghosts. In addition, before you go to sleep, do not let the children and adults watching with horror album, affect the quality of sleep, resulting in frequent nightmares at night.

        So adults do not afraid of a child, said he was a "coward" or "brave", will cause the child really useless more retreat, or think that the days are a fearless, is a good thing, Good boy.

How to help the baby to overcome fear

Afraid everyone will experience. Some people afraid of dogs, some people are afraid high, and some people are even afraid of what is not clear. Many parents have been troubled child afraid of feeling from the ghost of darkness it? Parents should think carefully about this problem.Tao Sheng Hua City nursery teaching team leader, Chen Guiying teacher said, some of the reasons and circumstances, unknowingly cause fear of young children, parents must pay attention and avoid:

1 alone

        The child's world, it is often accompanied by other factors as dark shadows and solitude, especially when a person, the more insecure, prone to fear. When he said "something fishy", may be afraid of the dark and can not see the object may be ambiguous shadows, it may be he was unwilling to be alone, afraid of being alone ...

2 adults intimidation

        When the child is disobedient or naughty, some parents will use ghost to scare him, "If you do not obey and bow, sit dinner the terror tiger in will be will find you!" Or the child in a dark place, such a small room, toilets, etc., in order to be punished, warning children, this method is easy for children to produce the emotions of ghosts and afraid of the dark.

3, the TV media impact

        Some TV show or supernatural show will be a ghost and black to do in connection with the re-fit some treacherous sound, action and props, make-up, after the mass propagation tool of rendering, "ghost very terror, it will appear in a dark place ... child heart ..., "so the" ghost "and" dark "there was the image of even deepen its fear.

Over rendering and exaggerated

        Young children if the parents, relatives, accompanied safe to him, the intimate comfort young children are not afraid of the dark. However, if the parents themselves are afraid of the dark, often make a fuss or scream, the child will have negative imitation, and deepened his dark sense of fear. Also, due to be overly rendering of "ghosts" but also adults and exaggerated movements and facial expressions, so that children will never forget, affect the future life.

How to overcome love fear

Experts said, There are many methods of treatment of love, fear, but not to say that everyone can use these methods, the treatment of each patient is different according to the different causes of the different incidence conditions, we take a look at the following patients shouldhow to overcome love phobia?

How to overcome love fear?

(1) drug treatment: usually the first drugs to control anxiety or panic attack, then behavioral therapy to eliminate the fear object avoidance. Commonly used drugs alprazolam, estazolam, nitrazepam, clonazepam. For social phobia efficacy sure phenelzine and tranylcypromine and moclobemide. Serotonin inhibitor class of antidepressants, such as paroxetine, has been identified by the U.S. Drug and Food Administration for effective drug for this disease. Tricyclic antidepressants report anti-phobia treatment, but the effect is still no clear conclusion.

(2) psychotherapy A. Awareness Therapy: the doctor must first help patients build confidence in treatment, analysis of the fear object. Pointed out that the reason for their fear is because of a lack of cognitive reflection, in order to overcome the fear, the first prophet must have. To help tap root "afraid" to know the contents of the "fear" to calculate the degree of "fear" to measure the probability of "fear". The only way to enable patients to properly evaluate their own position in the environment, this method can also be referred to as the "personal locator Act".

How to get over fear

The most effective eradication of phobia proposed by the psychologist Joseph Erpu of South Africa, called "systemic sensitization. According to this method, people need to learn how to relax.

Almost 10% of people in the world have different degrees of phobia, of which 1% of people suffering from severe phobia, caused a huge impact on their lives. They may be afraid to open space, someone else's humiliation, blood and even "13" figures. Usually they will discuss their fears and psychological counselors, psychologists, counselors and then trying to figure out the underlying causes of fear. In fact, this is a waste of time. There is a more efficient and effective ways to eradicate our fears. Each time to change a little bit as long as their behavior, it will forever change their own psychological. You will find yourself with incredible energy, can manipulate life in the end is the experience positive or negative situations.

Methods to help people overcome phobias typically includes the following steps:

Establishment of "anxiety sequence" - write down the things that make you feel anxiety, fear. Then, think about these things lead to anxiety levels, from 1 (very low) to 100 (very high) for its scoring, and sequentially arranged together. For example, if you are afraid of flying, your anxiety sequence should be: pack, book tickets, drove to the airport, check-in, boarding, aircraft taxiing aircraft rose to cruising altitude, and walk around the cabin, suffered airflow, aircraft landing, the plane crash.

The pairing process - Finally, first relax, then as long as possible to experience the anxiety in the first event in the sequence (if you can not experience, imagine you are going through the event). After the experience or imagine, 0 to 100 degrees scoring anxiety. And then repeat the process until the anxiety index dropped to 10 points or less. After the success of the start sequence after a practice event. Each practice for almost 30 minutes.

I have previously mentioned experiments of Stanley Si Kante. The experiments showed that experiencing an emotion often involves two steps. First, there must be an event or an idea to make your body respond. Perhaps heard gunshots, your palms flew sweating. Or see a highly attractive stranger at a party, and you feel that the heart will overflow. If you hear gunshots in the street, you will feel anxious; However, if you are in an open-air playground heard gunshots passing, shooting stalls, you'll feel pretty good. Similarly, if you think that the man in the party think you are attractive, you will be ecstatic; However, if you later find each other for the interest of the people standing behind you, you'll feel a little embarrassed.

In the 1990s, David Clark, a psychologist at the University of Oxford Si Kante philosophy is applied to the study of panic disorder. Clark panic disorder attack, because people misinterpret their bodily sensations. According to this concept, the regular panic attacks tend to think of my own heart beat too fast, sweaty palms, and then become more nervous, so he beat faster, palms emerge more sweat. This vicious cycle continues, the negative energy waves to come.

Clarke believed to cure panic disorder do not need drugs, do not need to explore childhood memories. In contrast, only need to teach people how to relax, or a better approach is to encourage people to interpret their own body feelings from the positive side, the first time will be able to suppress panic attacks.

Clark found a group of panic disorder patients often guilty of the patient, he said, when they feel the heart beat faster, breathless, should not panic, but they should be seen as their bodies feel a little anxious performance .

Clark's method is very significant. The experimental results show that, compared to drug therapy and relaxation treatments allow people to re-interpret their own body sensations more effective.

Using the same method, we can also help those exams, job interviews, public speaking anxiety that people in the hospital. As long as people know why their bodies over-excited, how to interpret the body's response to a more active, they will be able to better respond to these several conditions, to understand that no difficulties, the reason why these situations occur, just summon positive energy to create a better life version.

Monday, September 17, 2012

How overcome fear?

How to overcome fear? Many patients with anxiety disorders and their families want to know. To overcome the phobia, we must first pay attention to adjust their mentality, and establish some good ideas.

(A) accept themselves and build self-confidence

A lot of fear in patients is because they do not accept themselves and their own lack of self-confidence caused. So, you want to change the First would have in their hearts to accept and accept themselves and establish self-confidence.

(2) Do not expect too much of their own

Perfectionist, expect too much on their own, it is easy to worry about the outcome, too concerned with others of their own views, bent to get the recognition of others, and thereby lose yourself. Accept their current situation, do not worry about how others see you more afraid to make mistakes, the more you will feel helpless.

(C) Do not be too concerned about their own bodies reaction

Tension is always accompanied by a series of physiological discomfort, reinforcement theory, if we are too tight to pay attention to certain parts of the nervous reaction of their bodies, equivalent strengthen their nervous behavior, making it step by step worse. When we'll leave the tension response due to nervousness not pay attention to and strengthen the nervous reaction over time will gradually subside.

(D) the courage to face

Tension phenomenon, in social situations, often showing escape the psychological fear that they will fool of myself and not to face. In fact, escape and can not eliminate tension, on the contrary, it will make you feel the cowardly, so you blame yourself, so that the next time will be more nervous. And we can not escape life, we live in this community, people, sooner or later, we must face.

The best way to overcome fear is to bravely face nervous! Like a psychology expert noted: "We are afraid of is not really the thing itself, but our own!" The key is to see if you can beat myself and the courage to take the first step! bravely to face serious phobia patients and doctors with a common treatment.